Doing the right thing

Don't we spend exceedingly large amount of time wondering about all the right things to do ?
We decide, we choose, always just hoping that what we're doing is the right thing. I got up from my sleep thinking about all this. Yeah, I even sat down to write :P
I don't know, but most of the time we see things as black or white. It's either right or wrong, this or that, here or there. But that's not how things are in reality, is it ? There is gray matter. There is loads of gray matter. All it needs is a bit of understanding and perspective to look at that gray material.
We try our level best to never be wrong, but what is it that means to be right ?
Doesn't sometimes being right constitute doing something for yourself, not thinking about what the World thinks of our decisions ? As in, we question people who do things for themselves without giving a single thought to the people around them, I question their credibility, but then that is what they feel is right for them, isn't it ? Aren't we all entitled to taking certain decisions, certain rare, out of the blue decisions that are right for us regardless of what anyone else might say or think ?
I have selfless people around me, loads of them, people who always think of others, who take calculated steps to ensure no one gets hurt. I don't know where I am getting with all this. There is this thing in my mind that desperately wants to come out but I am just not able to find the appropriate words to say the same. The thing I'm trying to say is the fact that sometimes what's right is what we want to do. Regardless of whatever happened with us, whatever circumstances came upon us, whatever other people said or did. Sometimes, the right thing is to do what we want to and proceed with it. The opportunities that we get today, we may never get another day. Leaving those cause of a bunch of people who know no better than to pull you down wouldn't be beneficial for anyone. Neither you. Nor them.

"Darkness cannot drive out darkness, only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate, only love can do that ." - Martin Luther King, Jr.
Somewhere, somehow the above quote makes a lot of sense with what I am trying to say. When the correct thing to do is to be the light but everyone expects you to join in the dark, it's only right to be that light. It's not too often that you find something to do with your complete heart and soul, I'm not at all talking about huge decisions like choosing a career or getting married, but sometimes there are some little things that you know you want to do, it's only right to do them then.

Change

"The only thing that is constant is change. " - Heraclitus

Nothing is ever really constant in our life. People, thoughts, our list of favourite things, obsession with a particular colour, most viewed sit-com, hobbies, the list can go on. From the simplest to the most complex, nothing is ever really the same.
Yet, we try to fight change all the time. We try so hard to keep things just the way they were that we end up reducing the space for growth.
We expect our friends to be the same, to laugh at the same jokes, to receive us in the same manner, to console us in the same way as they used to and if we are lucky, we find them to be the same just for a little more while.
People who have closely seen us grow expect us to be the same, to behave and speak in the way we used to, to pay attention to those matters that we used to, to laugh, smile and be jolly just the way we used to when we were kids. Yet again, if we are lucky, we manage to keep them happy for some more time by being just the way we were, by being kids.
As much as we like to think that we follow a regular routine and nothing changes, everyday something changes bit by bit. There is something new that comes up in our life with each morning sun, some new commitment, a deadline, a project, reading material, e-mails and what not. Even the toothpaste tube we use requires a change every month !
Yet, we try to fight change all the time. Probably because it's only human to be comfortable and hope to remain comfortable always, but the truth is that if nothing changes, it is a sign of stillness and that's not what life is.
Life is movement.
Life is activity.
Life is change.   
Most importantly, life is acceptance of the changes that we like and working towards changing those we don't. ;)

Random Clutter

The human mind and the human behavior have been a mystery to the Scientist and Psychologists alike since the past many centuries. We might have evolved significantly in these fields but are still not able to understand or predict how the human mind works and may work in a given circumstance.

Where is the distinction between the head and the heart ? How does the head decide what part of it's thoughts are influenced by whom ? As in, how does the head decide where to stop getting influenced by the heart in the matters of the mind ? 

Confused ? So am I. 

I am not able to understand how the human mind perceives and understands relationships. Not my relationships with my friends, but rather someone else's relationships with someone else. I know it might seem like a pretty weird thing at first as to why someone would want to understand someone else's relationship with a completely different third person. What I am trying to say is, how does our mind judge relationships ? How does it judge the relationship of two different people where I, myself am not involved. People assert with so much confidence that some person x can go to any level to help some person y, without even knowing the dynamics of the relationship between the two of them. Similarly, why do people try to create a divide between two people by trying to pollute their minds ? My doubt is rather a bit different, it is not the fact as to why people try to do such stuff, it is more of the fact that how do people believe that doing such stuff will be of any use ? Are you able to relate to what I am saying at any level at all ? I am only trying to say that why do people try to hamper someone else's relationship with a completely different third person for any reason whatsoever. 

Negativity is so much more contagious then positivity. People catch on to it so quickly, but refuse to do the same with positivity. We get angry on others so quickly. It doesn't even take a  minute for us to get mad at someone and be present with an entire list of expectations that ought to have been fulfilled. 

We even be unreasonable. Many a times, we love being unreasonable. What we forget is the fact that we may hurt close ones in the process of being in this "difficult" mode. It's okay to be difficult. It's okay to be sad. It's okay to shout on people for things that matter to you. What isn't okay is the habit of jumping to conclusions and trying to keep everything bottled up inside. We tend to take small things for granted, things which if weren't there would have probably ruined us completely. 

That friend who refuses to leave your side despite your shouting "leave me alone, leave me alone " ?

That friend who tries to resolve a dispute with you even though you were being rude to them for the nth time ?

That friend who listens to whatever it is that is bothering you ? 

That friend who is by your side in the thick and thin ? 

 Just a few instances. I could come up with an entire list. I think you got my point though. Be grateful for these people. Cause they care for you. They do now. They always will.

In this fast, accelerated world it is truly difficult to find people who genuinely care for you. If there is even a single person who does that for you, don't let them go. Hold on to them and do your best to not hurt them. 

I don't know what I'm trying to say, but as the title suggests it's just "Random Clutter".

At the end of the day, your relationships matter. They matter the most. Just cause we all are humans, we all feel and we love being loved. 

Pay them the required attention. 

Give time to people. 

Respect them. 

Love them.