"Yaar tu hassti nahi hai "

When someone who has just been an acquaintance to you, comes up to you and says "yaar tu hassti nahi hai", it's like a wake up call for you. 

It's time to think of what it is that is going wrong and where. Knowing myself, this would be the last line that I would want someone to come and say to me, but nonetheleses I am more than grateful for the person to be frank enough with me. He probably did not realize what an effect his one single line had on me. 

I could probably name a number of things in my defense right now and say, this this this this this is what is making me like that. The point being, is it worth it ? 

Anything, absolutely anything, is it worth taking away your sunshine ? People would argue and even I would agree that certain things tend to have an enormous impact upon you, whether you like it or not. Till the time that impact is not ever lasting, it's healthy. It's proof that you are human. But letting something break you completely that you are not able to focus on anything other than that is definitely not a good sign. And if you are anywhere close to the kinds who love(s/d) laughing, spreading smiles and then someone comes up to you and says the above line, that's definitely a horrible sign. 

We have work. We all have work. We will always have work. That is one fact that I have just come to terms with. We will also have days. Days when we just feel like rolling into a blanket and not getting out and those days might even stretch for more than a "few days". You will eventually get out of these, probably even feeling silly for being there at the first place. But if there is someone around you who is having such a time, give them space. Give them time. No one loves being unhappy. No one loves not laughing. Sometimes, it's just about that one extra bit of understanding. Sometimes it's just about that one extra bit of patience. 

There was this anonymous quote which goes like "A smile is the light in the window of your face that tells people you're at home". Probably nothing great about the quote, but just makes me smile, it just goes through you in a weirdly warm way. 

As for the issue of me being perpetually glum, here's to laughing more often ;) :P

Being Rude.

It's an easy way out, isn't it ? Being rude ? 

You don't like something ? Be rude.

You don't like someone ? Be rude.

You disagree with something ? Be rude. 

Oh and the most favourite. You want to escape something ? Be rude. 

No, I don't have a problem with people being rude. I have a problem with people being rude and not realizing the same. I have a problem with those being rude, realizing it, but not doing anything to rectify it. I have a serious problem with those. And as it seems, the problem just seems to increase. I should probably try to do something about it. It's not my headache how people behave, is it ? It is a reflection of who they are and the kind of lives they live. Isn't it ? No.

It's not that simple. Never is. Atleast I don't think so. If you do, then let me know as well. How not to let people's behavior affect you, is something that I need to learn desperately. You don't always meet like-minded people, do you ? Rare chance. 

We live in a perpetual state of rat-race. We are perpetually running, competing, fighting, arguing, grabbing opportunities. What we don't realize is that in all this rush, we are being rude. And the best part ? Not realizing the same.

Here's a shout out to all those to whom I have ever been rude, intentionally or unintentionally, I apologise. Genuinely. 

I think it's high time we sit for two minutes (let's leave that Facebook tab for just two minutes) and just think whether who you are is exactly who you wanted to become. Just think about those times when you have given someone a cold shoulder for no reason whatsoever. And the best part ? Forgot to accept that fact either. 

It might not matter to you. One curt reply. One rude remark. It might just be making someone completely miserable. We don't know the battles the other person is facing, if we cant make them any better, let's not try to make them any worse either.

Untitled - II

"The evil that men do lives after them;

The good is oft interred with their bones;"
-Shakespeare

It takes years to build trust. It takes years for a relationship to nurture. But you do one thing wrong. And BAM! It's all gone. Or even a wrong intent. Why even an intent ? Even a mis-interpreted signal can make everything blow off in a minute. Everything, as much as you might have ever worked in a relationship. One wrong step and it's all gone.

I wonder why. I genuinely wonder why. Are such relationships not the kind that are meant to last ? I have seen friendships of really long time crumble into pieces just because one person did something wrong once. And these are not some general acquaintances or the regular "hi-bye types" friendships that I am talking about here. I am talking about serious, solid relationships. Doesn't all this make everything seem futile ? I mean, whatever, whatever you might do, if one wrong step ruins everything, then I don't see point in anything at all. 

Faith in humanity ? Gone.

But well, like (almost) every post, we can't really just focus on the negative now, can we ? Somewhere amidst those broken relations are the one which really count. The ones which really matter. I don't know whether they are meant to last till 'forever' or whether they will be able to 'stand the test of time' but what I do know is that these are the relations which we have for NOW. Life would probably be way more worse had it not been for these few bunch of people. There's just this slight fear in me sometimes. The fear of losing people. The fear of losing those who matter. Every person has a different way of reacting to different things ? Different way of approaching a problem ? I have been taught by a very close friend of mine to say "hello" to the problem right in the face. Be it a person, a thing, a question unsolved, a broken promise, a friend ignored or something else. Whatever it is, meet it upfront. That doesn't work always. It definitely doesn't for me. What happens then ? You figure it out :P But when it comes to people, one ought to be very careful. Very very careful. 

The only respite in the entire entire scenario is that there would be more people like you out there. More people who would think like this and a few more people who would understand all that goes on into your mind. Hold on to those. Try Always ? 

Faith in humanity ? Semi-restored.